How important is "chemistry"?
Do you value "intense chemistry"?
Are you looking for "the spark"?
Do you believe that "we cannot help who we are attracted to"?
The physiological effects of fear and excitement in the body are the same, just as the chemical graph of vitamin C and arsenic appear similar at first glance.
Can you tell the difference?
Your brilliant thinking mind has little to do with who you find attractive. That comes from your subconscious preferences for familiarity, even when what's familiar is toxicity, chaos and pain.
Particularly the toxicity and pain because of the confusion between the experiences of fear and anxiety and the unconscious drive to repeat the unresolved experiences and heal.
That's how you find yourself falling for someone inconsistent, unavailable or downright abusive. Whatever the challenge, it adds to the excitement/fear.
The unpredictability and turmoil result in your body producing more excitement and connection hormones. As you experience those through years of learned filters and conditioning, you misinterpret the experience of heightened emotions as love and passion.
The wild romance of unhealthy relationships lies in the misinterpreted chemistry.
You can break that cycle.
Relationships that are secure and healthy also have chemistry.
Sometimes the spark you see is radioactivity, not diamonds.
Addressing the patterns running your life can change who you are attracted to.
Stay safe, and don't confuse your vitamins with arsenic.